Don't you wish there was one? I mean something just to let you know you're on the right path with each child. One to let you know you did the right thing in this situation and that. As they get older, you seem to get thrown into more and more situations and it feels aweful to punish them so often. I feel like we have done nothing but punish Cole lately. I finally told him tonight that, though he might think we enjoy it, it would be so much easier to not do a thing and he could watch tv or listen to his MP3, not be bored, etc. But, instead, we have to do what we feel he might learn a lesson from which causes us to have to stay on top of him to make sure he's adhering to the discipline.
So for like the 3rd time in 2 weeks he has no screen privileges (tv, gameboy, MP3, etc.). We also made him stay home from a Halloween party he was supposed to go to. I was actually looking forward to getting to know the kids he hangs out with and some of their parents, but I didn't want him to think his actions were okay. We couldn't figure out why he was already getting a D- in a class and he didn't know why either. Uh huh. He tells us this morning that he needs to write a paper after soccer. It finally hits me that this paper is in the class he's getting a D in and he NEVER has weekend homework. So I asked him and sure enough this paper was due FRIDAY. Well, A....he lied...didn't know why he was getting a D. And B....he procastinated and didn't complete homework that he had 4 days to work on.
We worked on it all day today. I asked him if all of his Saturday was worth working on something he could have done in a couple of nights. The answers was a big "this sucks, no way". How else did you expect an 11 year old to answer you. :)
Hopefully this is a score for the parentals.
Lisa
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