http://news.yahoo.com/video/us-15749625/paralyzed-bride-jennifer-darmon-walks-at-wedding-24948127
It's only about a minute long video, but I have to say it brought tears to my eyes. They are starting off their marriage very strong. I know, first hand, the amount of strength and courage it takes on both sides for what they're getting through. It sounds horrible, but it's extremely true, that when these sorts of injuries take place within just a couple of years a lot of couples split up....married or not. He stayed with her when he didn't have to and promised to by asking her to marry him. A lot of character for him. And her strength? You cannot deny that someone who has that sort of injury and learns to walk again, if only for the isle, has a tremendous amount of inner strength and resolve...as did Brian.
Married couples have a lot to get through in their marriages, but this is a trial unlike most. Maybe on par or right under if one gets cancer. Very life changing for both, to say the least.
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
Monday, April 18, 2011
Fishing for Minnows
The big boys got a very small, 2 gallon, fish tank for Christmas this year. They tried their hand a couple of different fish and nothing lasted more than a few days. So, we were letting the tank sit because sometimes fish do better after that point. Now, 3 months later we're getting some algae and definitely a seasoned tank.
Since they LOVE to catch minnows and such and bring them home, I thought maybe they could put some in the tank and we'd just keep them instead. We only have one as of tonight. They didn't do so well as there were other people around the lake. Jaemin did get to play with a frog and touch a tadpole though. The tadpole has even already grown it's legs. Jaemin wasn't too keen on the frog though. It jumped and scared him...yeah Mr. Tough Guy.....and he told us to put it back. I asked him to hold it, so he grabbed it from me and threw it back into the lake. I don't think he cared for it.
It was a nice break from rushing in the evening. I fixed supper, left it to simmer on the stove and we left. We came back just 1/2 hour later, took showers and enjoyed the food. And boy were they all hungry after that.
Since they LOVE to catch minnows and such and bring them home, I thought maybe they could put some in the tank and we'd just keep them instead. We only have one as of tonight. They didn't do so well as there were other people around the lake. Jaemin did get to play with a frog and touch a tadpole though. The tadpole has even already grown it's legs. Jaemin wasn't too keen on the frog though. It jumped and scared him...yeah Mr. Tough Guy.....and he told us to put it back. I asked him to hold it, so he grabbed it from me and threw it back into the lake. I don't think he cared for it.
It was a nice break from rushing in the evening. I fixed supper, left it to simmer on the stove and we left. We came back just 1/2 hour later, took showers and enjoyed the food. And boy were they all hungry after that.
Sunday, April 17, 2011
Sleep for Donuts
After 7 full months of sleeping with me, on me, in my bed, Jaemin slept all night in his own bed. I refuse to let him cry this out. It's not worth it. With his acid reflux he has a lot of gagging issues and when he cries really hard he pukes. And then with his reflux he's so used to swallowing that kind of gunk that he swallows it and I'd be afraid he's aspirate it and end up with it in his lungs like he used to. Not worth it!
I at least want him to fall asleep in his own bed though. I don't care as much that he comes in for comfort if he wakes in the night, but not to start out there or wait until I go to bed and then come in. Literally, that's what it's come to. We can put him down at 8 and he'll lie there quietly until I tip toe past to go to bed. Then, it's a fight...at 10 or 11 at night. I can't do it anymore. I'm too tired for that. He sleeps great when he's in my bed, but he's got to go to sleep in his.
We've been bribing him with donuts for about a week now. I bought his favorite little gem donuts on sale this week and he LOVES them. So, I thought surely he would sleep in his bed for a donut in the morning. All yesterday he was clapping for the donuts he would get this morning. He would tell us he was going to sleep in 'my room'. YAY! Not mommy's room. YAY! But, by nightfall we asked him if he was going to sleep in his bed all night, in his room and he politely told Brian 'no thank you'. It was the cutest thing, but we'd taken a huge leap backwards in the bed war. So at bedtime, which is later on weekends, we put him to bed. I'd cooked all day yesterday, for Easter since I don't have time this week, and was exhausted early. So I decided to go ahead and sneak off to bed. He'd been quiet for awhile, so I thought maybe he was sleeping. Nope. I get to my room and I could hear him running down the hall. So we started the war at 9:30 and it ended about 11. I won this time. I put him in his bed and sat outside his room so that every time he got out of bed I could direct him back into bed. I eventually went to bed as he was starting to get drowsy. He followed after a bit, but after a couple of times of walking him back to his room I no longer had to get up. I could just tell him he was not sleeping in my bed, he was sleeping in his bed and he needed to go back to his room. He did this several times and was done for the night. He really hardly even cried when I told him to go to his room. I could hear the pouty 'huh huh' as he walked back, but that was it.
This morning I went to his bed and woke him up. I told him how big he was and that he was going to get his donuts. He was THRILLED to get up this morning. He ate and ate and ate. He's already saying he'll sleep in his bed tonight. But, as we learned last night what we think in the morning is not necessarily what we're thinking at night when the time comes. And before anyone thinks Brian didn't try to help in this, I asked him not to. This has been my war with Jaemin. It was always me he wanted. It wasn't my bed. I slept in his room two nights ago on his floor by his bed and he got up several times to lay on the floor with me. He's a mommy snuggler that for sure.
My donut boy!
I at least want him to fall asleep in his own bed though. I don't care as much that he comes in for comfort if he wakes in the night, but not to start out there or wait until I go to bed and then come in. Literally, that's what it's come to. We can put him down at 8 and he'll lie there quietly until I tip toe past to go to bed. Then, it's a fight...at 10 or 11 at night. I can't do it anymore. I'm too tired for that. He sleeps great when he's in my bed, but he's got to go to sleep in his.
We've been bribing him with donuts for about a week now. I bought his favorite little gem donuts on sale this week and he LOVES them. So, I thought surely he would sleep in his bed for a donut in the morning. All yesterday he was clapping for the donuts he would get this morning. He would tell us he was going to sleep in 'my room'. YAY! Not mommy's room. YAY! But, by nightfall we asked him if he was going to sleep in his bed all night, in his room and he politely told Brian 'no thank you'. It was the cutest thing, but we'd taken a huge leap backwards in the bed war. So at bedtime, which is later on weekends, we put him to bed. I'd cooked all day yesterday, for Easter since I don't have time this week, and was exhausted early. So I decided to go ahead and sneak off to bed. He'd been quiet for awhile, so I thought maybe he was sleeping. Nope. I get to my room and I could hear him running down the hall. So we started the war at 9:30 and it ended about 11. I won this time. I put him in his bed and sat outside his room so that every time he got out of bed I could direct him back into bed. I eventually went to bed as he was starting to get drowsy. He followed after a bit, but after a couple of times of walking him back to his room I no longer had to get up. I could just tell him he was not sleeping in my bed, he was sleeping in his bed and he needed to go back to his room. He did this several times and was done for the night. He really hardly even cried when I told him to go to his room. I could hear the pouty 'huh huh' as he walked back, but that was it.
This morning I went to his bed and woke him up. I told him how big he was and that he was going to get his donuts. He was THRILLED to get up this morning. He ate and ate and ate. He's already saying he'll sleep in his bed tonight. But, as we learned last night what we think in the morning is not necessarily what we're thinking at night when the time comes. And before anyone thinks Brian didn't try to help in this, I asked him not to. This has been my war with Jaemin. It was always me he wanted. It wasn't my bed. I slept in his room two nights ago on his floor by his bed and he got up several times to lay on the floor with me. He's a mommy snuggler that for sure.
My donut boy!
Sunday, April 10, 2011
Long day of shopping with great rewards
I 'made' the big boys go with me shopping today. Unfortunately, I had to do my monthly shopping and weekly groceries at once...which meant a massive list! I was also planning on returning stuff to Kohls and checking the price on diapers at Target since I'd be out that way...oh and stop by the $1 store. The first parts were all a bust! I forgot my Kohls return, so the boys got out of that. The diapers that were on sale at Target weren't as good a deal as they seemed online, but the Target brand WAS cheaper than Walmart's brand, so I got them. I found a couple of things for little man to get from the Easter Bunny and then he can bring them on vacation with us. All good there.
Then we were off to Walgreens to get some dental floss...real cheap. Yep, I walked out of there with just the dental floss. After that it was some items at Kroger, but only what was on the list from the ad. Only if super cheap. But, we stocked up on some cheap chips for the trip. Last stop was Walmart. That was a large bill, but for a month of toiletries, etc and 1 week of food it was good.
I actually came in real great on my budget today. Surprised me with how over full the cart was. I could barely push it after we put 20 lbs of dog food on the bottom too. I made my lists at home and then searched for all the coupons I didn't already have. Of course, I always print extra if I think there's a chance I might use it down the road. Saved me $16 on everything I was buying anyways. See we don't live in an 'extreme coupon' area where you get double dolllar coupons, triple any coupons, etc. So, you have to be happy with this. Plus when you're buying fresh fruits and veggies and NO processed foods it's a little harder...but I don't care.
My best deal was $3 off a Toy Story Operation game that was on clearance for $5. Do I need it? No, but I cut the coupon thinking it would be a great Christmas or birthday present for one of the younger ones. So, yep, I got it for $2. Cole used comp ads to get the donuts he wanted to buy himself for $1.09 each. I told him I'd never seen them that cheap and he buys his own junk food, so he used my ad. He also used a coupon I found for B1G1 Axe shower gel. He got two for $3. He was pretty happy with his deals, so this was a GREAT teaching opportunity.
After I got home and put all the stuff away little man woke up from his nap. He was SO happy to see me and gave me a big 'hi mommy'. Then, I sat down on the couch and he monkey hugged me (this is what I call it when he wraps hi arms around my neck and legs around my waist) and kept rubbing and squeezing his hands on my. I asked him what he was doing and he kind of gave me the duh answer of 'I hugging you'. I've never heard that from him and it was so sweet. As in 'I love you' sweet. Man that boy makes a tired mom feel good! Love you Jaemin!
Friday, April 8, 2011
kiss it mommy
Just 3 months ago Jaemin was barely stringing two words together. Every great once in awhile we'd get 3 small ones. Now he talks CONSTANTLY!
Tonight it was "ouch, that hurt", "kiss it mommy". And when I was done I got a big "thank you". Way sweeter than the big ones. And they wonder why he's my favorite kid. ;)
Just kidding guys.
Lisa
Tonight it was "ouch, that hurt", "kiss it mommy". And when I was done I got a big "thank you". Way sweeter than the big ones. And they wonder why he's my favorite kid. ;)
Just kidding guys.
Lisa
Monday, April 4, 2011
Halleluja!
I'm in bed by 10 and Jae is ASLEEP in HIS bed. No early fight tonight..... And I almost gave in and gave paci back. That's how bad last night was. Amen!
So yeah, we're lucky
But it's still d@^^ frustrating that we have to deal with the repercussions of the injury. I honestly get VERY annoyed when people tell me how lucky we were with Brian and his spinal cord injury. I know they mean well, but it's not like I don't know it. I'm reminded almost everyday. Trust me, I haven't forgotten and doubt I'll be able to any time soon.
Meanwhile, when something to this magnitude happens to your body, regardless of what others outside the bubble see, there are things you and your family deal with that they will never know or understand and it's often enough, that there's no avoidance or forgetting.
Meanwhile, when something to this magnitude happens to your body, regardless of what others outside the bubble see, there are things you and your family deal with that they will never know or understand and it's often enough, that there's no avoidance or forgetting.
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