Friday, February 6, 2009

Birth Families and Adoptees Everywhere

http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=6819597

Hopefully this link works.  It's a Good Morning America link to a story of a man that was just past toddler years when his Korean mother had to place him for adoption, after his father passed away.  He then came to live in the US.  He had the opportunity to meet his birthmother and it was so emotional.  Seeing how much older this woman was and getting to meet her son just broke my heart.  I can't begin to imagine how my daughters' birth mothers feel.  Do they miss their baby girls terribly?  I can't imagine they don't.  Will they forgive themselves for their selfless act for their baby girls?  I hope so. 

I pray that, one day, if my daughters want to and choose to search for their birth families, they get to meet their birth families.  I pray, if they want to, they're able to locate them.  I pray all of these hearts, with a missing piece, are made whole again.  I know I can't fix them if they feel a piece missing.  I can just support them to do what they may feel the need to do.

Please pray for all the birthmothers throughout the world who are missing the children they so lovingly placed into adoption.  Please pray these children are loved unconditionally by their adoptive families and given the opportunity to do what they need to to be the person they need to be.

Lisa


Thursday, February 5, 2009

TF Issue Resolved

I received a message from Tracfone today in regards to my complaint filed with the AG's office.  They wanted to transfer my double for life card to my current cell, per my complaint.  I told them that was fine, but I also wanted the minutes I didn't get the day I added them.  She finally accepted that request as I told her I would not drop the AG's complaint with out it.  I also informed them that when shopping on their site, this little disclosure about the double life only applying to the life of the phone should be with that item when purchasing.  She said it's at the bottom of the page at the bottom of the list of all of the options to buy and you have to read a disclosure to see it.  So basically, you'd have to fish for it.  I told her that since nothing else has a limitation like that it would be more noticable to be with the item you're purchasing.  Then maybe, she wouldn't have people like me filing complaints with the AG's offices around the US.  ;)  She agreed, but who knows if the powers that be will really be smart enough to head off some headaches they're causing themselves.

Lisa


Is it just me or do you really wonder about the world we live in?

Am I cynical, judgemental, etc.?  I just can't help but wonder what people are thinking.  Is it just more in our face than years ago because of media hype and multi-media avenues to convey hot subjects?  I mean you can read headlines at any given time in the week and see a headline on places like AOL news or Yahoo news and see things like a mother who gives birth to octoplets because she didn't want to waste embryos?  Okay?  She already had 6 kids ages 7 and under, is single and is adding 8 more?  It's probably just me, but it screams I want money like everyone else who has large families and appears on tv (aka Jon and Kate Plus 8 and, 17 Kids and Counting, etc.)  I guess really, TLC and shows of the sort are somewhat to blame.  They enable people to believe if they do something similar they will inherit the riches strewn upon families like the Gosselins.  Granted, the show started out with a great premise of it being hard to raise 8 children as a normal family.  Normal they are not.  Only to not work, have a nanny and buy whatever you need, including a 6200 square foot house on a large acreage.  Seriously!  I think this woman having the octoplets saw this and thought, "yep, that's my piece of the pie".

Then you've got this horrible economy.  You have banks getting bailouts from who.....us!  Then the execs still spend this money....ours.....freely!  As stupidly as they got us into this predicament, they're continuing in the same ridiculous habits with no accountability whatsoever.  I mean seriously, lavish vacations, jets and bonus'...please...GET REAL!  What about Macy's.  What did they do?  Layoff their workforce and give the execs bonuses.  And when those workers that they laid off and other people who could normally afford to shop at Macy's can no longer....bye bye bonuses and bye bye exec jobs 'cause Macy's will go under.  Who do they think is shopping there.  It's not them.  That would be below them.  They're shopping Nieman's, etc.  Come on!

People need to get their heads out of the sand (because this is a family blog :)  ) and start being less selfish.  We're all in this together.  We can get through it together or fall divided.  That is a very true statement.  What was so bad about years ago?  Yes, in some ways our culture has improved.  In some ways it has gotten a whole lot worse!

Lisa


Sunday, February 1, 2009

Sports and Grades (kids stuff)

We've struggled, somewhat, with grades for Cole for awhile.  I know most parents are completely thrilled with B averages, but he's SO very capable of more.  We're now about midway through the 3rd quarter of this year and his grades have vastly improved.  Each quarter has gotten better.  1st quarter consisted of mostly B's and the rest A's.  Then 2nd quarter was about split A's and B's.  This quarter, so far of course, is 1 B (an 88 though) and the rest A's.  SO GOOD!  Chase got a  nasty little 89 the first quarter and it threw him onto the B honor roll the first quarter.  He was VERY disappointed when he found out he would get the money.  Then the 2nd quarter was all A's with an A average for the semester too.  We've always tried really hard to encourage the kids and we've always paid Cole a little for his good grades (B's and better), but with Chase in the mix this year and sports to play we upped the anty a little.  They agreed with our new policy and wanted it over the prior policy for grade pay.  Prior to this, we paid $1/A and $.50/B and nothing lower.  If you got straight A's you got $20 for the quarter.  This year we informed Cole that since he wanted to play basketball and it coincides with the school year, unlike summer baseball, he had to have an 83% or higher in order for us to let him stay on the team.  He agreed and has worked very hard to keep this.  That combined with our new pay policy seems to have encouraged him.  I hope he stays that way.  We're now only paying for straight A's.  They get $40/semester for straight A's and if they keep them the entire year they get an extra $100.  They can spend half.  This has really been enticing for them and Chase managed it, so he's really aiming for the year now. 

We figured parents buy their kids stuff when they go to Walmart all the time or pay allowances and what not.  What's a better investment than working hard for good grades and getting money for your accomplishment.  No better way to spend money, in our minds.  Then they have to save too.  The portion they can spend we help them talk over how to spend and the best way to do so.  It teaches them to be a little frugal and wait for things they really want, but don't have the money for. 

Now, they're also learning to allocate their time wisely.  We've told them before we don't expect to be able to let them play more than 2 sports.  Having 4 kids means a sacrifice of time to go to the games/events and we want to be there for them all, as parents.  Not to mention how expensive it could get.  Cole has decided to let baseball go.  He does not want to play this Spring and we're behind him.  If he should decide, next year, that he missed it and wants to sign up again, that's fine too.  He may find other intestests...who knows.  He seemed to really like playing basketball, so we told him to put his energy into it and get better at that activity.  Chase still wants to do it all.  But, he's slimmed his two down to baseball and eventually football.  Yeah, not his mother's pick, but....  Kaelin is all about soccer still.  She seems to have no interest in anything else and she's pretty darn good at it.  She's got some natural athletic ability like Chase....even as ackwardly as she walks sometimes.  Get that girl out there to play soccer and she's a different person.  Who knows about Chelsi yet.  She says she wants to cheer like momma, but I think she'll try a year at soccer this fall to see if she likes it.  Wow...I hadn't thought about that 'til now.  My baby's old enough to play soccer.  Good Lord, where has the time gone with my baby? 

Lisa


Superbowl Sunday...Sunday....Sunday

Did you hear the echoe?  I'm REALLY not into football.  I don't hate it, just can take it or leave it.  Now if there were in-person tickets...yeah.  Every sport is greater in-person.  Maybe with the exception of golf and bowling.  :)

Anyways, the feast is going.  We don't usually get together and have a party.  It's really not like that.  Brian has a couple of good friends who like football, so they usually come over, not always, and watch the game.  We make snacks no matter what.  The boys like watching the games with snacks.  So, Cole and I made a chocolate cheesecake and deer/pork bulgogi this morning.  Tonight we'll make a chili/cream cheese dip and Brian is making  a pot of chili.  We've tasted the bulgogi already (a traditional Korean dish) and the deer....is okay, not my favorite, but the pork tastes yummy and just like the restaurant.   Here's the recipe - http://whatscooking.jdpages.com/denises_famous_bulgogi_crockpot.html  We'll be making some sticky rice tonight to go with the bulgogi...definitely the kids' favorite.

Can't wait for time to eat...who cares about game time.  :)


Sunday, January 25, 2009

새해복많으받으세요

Happy Sol Nal!  We were able to get together with a few other families this year to celebrate.  We were supposed to try last year, but... 

We had a great time with everyone.  The kids really had a good time since they were able to run around in the room we had reserved.  We truly never get to see everyone often enough.

My girls.



 

The group.



Chelsi and Cale








Saturday, January 17, 2009

Tracfone....be careful

Double Minutes for Life

That's a laugh and a half!  It's not for life.  There's no fine print either.  I have my receipt and it says "Double Minutes for Life"...not life of the phone.  But, if you call their customer service they'll inform you that you should just know this.  The phone number and minutes transfer when you upgrade your phone, but not this plan that costs an additional $50.  Wrote the Attorney General's office on this.  It's out and out fraudulent practices.  I really hope they get on them like they usually do everyone else.  That's one thing our state's AG's office does do well.

Lisa