Why do some people feel the need to dwell on something and then go on and on to you and yet if you try to offer some consolation like they're not alone they just think they are? I'm talking about the ones that are going through something bad (I'm not talking death or massive illness) but a change or a bad day and if you try to express empathy by saying you've been there done that they don't want to hear you at all. These are also the same people that do this day in day out. Meaning they're not just venting because they've had a crappy day, they're venting on an almost daily basis that they've had a crappy month or year. And if there kid does something awesome your kid can't possibly be as good.
I just get so frustrated with this and I try not to get into conversations, at all, with these people, but sometimes it feels totally unavoidable. I guess I'm just hoping that I don't dwell on stuff in the first place, because mostly that's what I find annoying....listening to them rehashing the dwelled topic over and over and over again. Is it just their insecurity??
Sorry...I just had to finally vent because I'm tired of the know it alls of the world who think no one knows better than them about anything they know or any experience they have had. The whole world is wrong to these people. I get so tired of overly cocky people!
Lisa
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Sunday, April 25, 2010
What a downer
I'm going to be. I'm usually a thank God, I've got the best life, I'm so blessed kinda person and I still feel that way. In no way to I regret any portion of my life or choices made, but I'm just in a bad mood, tired and worn out.
The kids have gotten on our nerves this weekend. Jaemin's pretty much excused because, well, he's a 1 year old little boy. Need I say more as to why he tests and tests and tests us and is as loud as can be? The other 4 have done nothing but fight and whine and with the weather being what it is we can't get them out to expend energy. We're getting on each other's nerves too out of being tired, etc.
This is one of those days when you think God I could use a couple's vacation...not a date....a vacation and Calgon, please take me away for just a minute. I love 'em....all 6 of the people in this house, but I need some me with no stress. I can't even begin to figure out how or where that could happen, so buck up baby and get over it! Right?
Just needed to vent for once and now ya know this girl is normal and her life is far from perfect that can easily be portrayed in a little blog.
Lisa
The kids have gotten on our nerves this weekend. Jaemin's pretty much excused because, well, he's a 1 year old little boy. Need I say more as to why he tests and tests and tests us and is as loud as can be? The other 4 have done nothing but fight and whine and with the weather being what it is we can't get them out to expend energy. We're getting on each other's nerves too out of being tired, etc.
This is one of those days when you think God I could use a couple's vacation...not a date....a vacation and Calgon, please take me away for just a minute. I love 'em....all 6 of the people in this house, but I need some me with no stress. I can't even begin to figure out how or where that could happen, so buck up baby and get over it! Right?
Just needed to vent for once and now ya know this girl is normal and her life is far from perfect that can easily be portrayed in a little blog.
Lisa
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
blah, blah, blah.....
literally.
UGH.....does anyone listen to me. At work, I've been having issues with one of our contractors. I put everything in writing and then they ask a question where they could find the answer in the previously sent email.
At home, I have 5 that don't listen. A part of me just hopes that they are hearing me, just not necessarily listening to me and eventually when they really need to they will hear my voice in the back of their heads. I know I shouldn't preach and I'm not near as preachy as I used to be....mostly because I'm too tired to preach. Cole's grades are better....but I'm sure a grade will sneak in there that we're not prepared for and bomb what little's left. I'm always bracing for that with him becuase, well, that's how he rolls. We don't see any papers because he won't bring them home, so we're never really prepared. We're trying to pick our battles with him, so there is only so much we can get onto the 13 yo for.
Chase is now having trouble in math, but he and his teacher do not know why. He has 100%, so far, in every other class, but has been forgetting a couple of assignments lately. This is really not like him and he wants the money we pay for A semester grades. He may not make it if he doesn't straighten it out. Not sure how that will turn out.
Chelsi didn't listen tonight at all. When I picked her up, grandma had given her a lily to bring home. I told her to leave it on my console so it didn't get broken and when we got home I would put it in water. We got home and I started going through the big kids' papers and started warming the leftovers when I heard the door. She escaped out the door and was, apparently, on her way to put the flower in the garden. Not sure if she thought she was going to plant it or what. Meanwhile she's running around barefoot outside and I hate dirty feet inside, so we had to wash off. Yes, I have a phobia of nasty on the floor....especially with all of our allergies, etc.
Jaemin, well, he's only 1, so I expect him to ignore. Kaelin has, oddly enough, listened so far today. It's usually her that ignores the most. I don't think she does it on purpose all the time, but sometimes she really does.
AHHH....they're making me crazy. Thank God for leftovers creating a somewhat quick night....especially when dad's not home because he's out buying a boat!
Lisa
UGH.....does anyone listen to me. At work, I've been having issues with one of our contractors. I put everything in writing and then they ask a question where they could find the answer in the previously sent email.
At home, I have 5 that don't listen. A part of me just hopes that they are hearing me, just not necessarily listening to me and eventually when they really need to they will hear my voice in the back of their heads. I know I shouldn't preach and I'm not near as preachy as I used to be....mostly because I'm too tired to preach. Cole's grades are better....but I'm sure a grade will sneak in there that we're not prepared for and bomb what little's left. I'm always bracing for that with him becuase, well, that's how he rolls. We don't see any papers because he won't bring them home, so we're never really prepared. We're trying to pick our battles with him, so there is only so much we can get onto the 13 yo for.
Chase is now having trouble in math, but he and his teacher do not know why. He has 100%, so far, in every other class, but has been forgetting a couple of assignments lately. This is really not like him and he wants the money we pay for A semester grades. He may not make it if he doesn't straighten it out. Not sure how that will turn out.
Chelsi didn't listen tonight at all. When I picked her up, grandma had given her a lily to bring home. I told her to leave it on my console so it didn't get broken and when we got home I would put it in water. We got home and I started going through the big kids' papers and started warming the leftovers when I heard the door. She escaped out the door and was, apparently, on her way to put the flower in the garden. Not sure if she thought she was going to plant it or what. Meanwhile she's running around barefoot outside and I hate dirty feet inside, so we had to wash off. Yes, I have a phobia of nasty on the floor....especially with all of our allergies, etc.
Jaemin, well, he's only 1, so I expect him to ignore. Kaelin has, oddly enough, listened so far today. It's usually her that ignores the most. I don't think she does it on purpose all the time, but sometimes she really does.
AHHH....they're making me crazy. Thank God for leftovers creating a somewhat quick night....especially when dad's not home because he's out buying a boat!
Lisa
Monday, April 19, 2010
Pleading for the case of sibling adoption in Korea
Another family has received the call for a sibling adoption in Korea. This family, however, is aging out or has just aged out of the program. The US agency is unsure if the ministry in Korea will grant this family a waiver for adoption of their child's sibling, so they asked them to find other sibling adoptive families to write on their behalf with our experiences. I know that I'm kind of a wordy person, so I intentionally tried to keep it short to make my point and hopefully it worked. We were more than happy to help this family though. I can't imagine this being the 'something' in the way of these children joining each other.
Here is what I wrote:
Here is what I wrote:
"Members of the Korean Ministry:
We are an adoptive family in the United States to three Korean-born children; 5 children total. In 2009, we were blessed to be able to adopt the brother to one of our Korean-born daughters. I don’t think I could begin to stress enough how fortunate we feel to have this little boy in our lives and in the life of his biological sister.
JeeYung arrived to us in the United States in March 2006 and we received Jaemin in Korea in May 2009. Whether adopted domestically or internationally adoptees lose biological ties via adoption. Most of us take the things that go along with these ties for granted. Our daughter and son may never know their Korean birth families, but they have something most adoptees do not have the luxury of. Our son and daughter know their biological sibling and get to be raised together with a family who loves them dearly. All five of our children are, no doubt, 100% siblings, but one day these two will have a link to the past and will be bonded through it.
We love Korea for the importance it has always seemed to place on this biological tie in adoption. Keeping siblings together is an amazing gift that I can’t imagine any adoptee not being thankful for. Jee Yung is only 4 years old, but she is very proud to know that her brother is here with her and she tells us this. She loves her brother with everything she has.
I only speak for our family in saying that while JeeYung got her brother Jaemin; we all gained this beautiful little boy as well and will forever be grateful for our gift. Please continue to place importance on this and embrace the positives that will forever be in the lives of these children if it is at all possible to take place.
Thank you."
My nightly visitor
Okay, it's not 'really' night.....it's 4-5 am. I have a little boy who likes to come into my room to sleep with me. Sometimes it's earlier, but most nights it's 3:30-4 that he originally comes in. Sometimes I let him stay a bit if he seems like he may sleep and sometimes he tries to sleep in my bed, but isn't really that tired so he jabbers. He never cries. I put him to bed and eventually he stays there. Sometimes, though, I pretend to keep sleeping thinking he will go back to bed. That doesn't work either. He will just stand there with his hands on my bed watching me, waiting for me to wake up. It's really pretty darn cute, so you can never actually be upset with him. But, this occurs about 5 times per week, so it is tiring, but I love him.
Tonight I put him in bed and told him I'd see him in the morning. I said "you're going to stay in bed tonight, right?" He gave me an ornery look, through the light coming in the cracked door, and shook his whole body as he shook his head 'no'. He's such a little stink! He's such a jokester and the little stinker knows he's cute!
What am I going to do?
Lisa
Tonight I put him in bed and told him I'd see him in the morning. I said "you're going to stay in bed tonight, right?" He gave me an ornery look, through the light coming in the cracked door, and shook his whole body as he shook his head 'no'. He's such a little stink! He's such a jokester and the little stinker knows he's cute!
What am I going to do?
Lisa
The season has started
They've already been a couple of times, but now that it's really getting nice the 3 big boys will be gone constantly. As long as they eventually bring something home to eat it's alright. Hey, we gotta keep our boys happy and when they go fishing, they stay happy!
Lisa
Lisa
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